Perimenopause Rage Is Real — Here’s Why You’re Not Crazy

Raise your hand if you’ve ever looked at someone and thought, “If you say one more word, I might lose it”? 🙋‍♀️

Or slammed a door, muttered something under your breath, or cried one minute and yelled the next?

Yeah. Me too. Welcome to perimenopause.

And let me tell you: that rage? It’s real. And you are not crazy.

Why the Rage Happens

Perimenopause is a perfect storm of physical, emotional, and hormonal changes:

1. Hormones are on a rollercoaster. Estrogen and progesterone levels fluctuate, affecting mood regulation, impulse control, and emotional stability. One minute you’re fine, the next you’re plotting revenge on a paperclip.

2. Sleep deprivation is real. Hot flashes, night sweats, insomnia, it all steals your brain’s ability to cope. And your patience? Gone.

3. Life stress doesn’t pause. Kids, work, parents, deadlines, life’s endless list, it doesn’t matter if your hormones are revolting, the world keeps spinning.

4. Accumulated frustration. Let’s be honest: decades of “just deal with it” and “be nice” come back to bite you. Midlife is like, “Actually, no. I’m not doing that anymore.”

   
   

Rage Isn’t Failure — It’s a Signal

Feeling intense irritability or anger isn’t a moral failing. It’s your body saying:

• “I need help managing stress.”

• “I need rest, boundaries, and support.”

• “I need connection with women who get it.”

  
  

Ignoring it or apologizing for it all the time only makes it worse. The key is understanding it and channeling it into action, not shame.

How to Channel the Rage

• Name it: Call it what it is, perimenopause rage, and stop apologizing for it.

• Move your body: Exercise, dance, walk, release that energy before it explodes on someone else.

• Talk to your people: Find friends or a community who understand what you’re going through.

• Set boundaries: It’s not selfish; it’s survival. Saying no is self-respect.

• Rest intentionally: Fatigue amplifies irritability. Sleep, naps, and downtime aren’t optional, they’re essential.

  
  

  

  
  

You’re Not Alone

You might feel isolated because most people don’t talk about this. But here’s the truth: thousands of women are going through the same thing. And connecting with them makes all the difference.

That’s why I created The Dangerous Age. It’s a space where midlife women can be themselves, rage, tears, joy, and all.

A place to laugh, vent, learn, and grow together.

Perimenopause rage isn’t something to hide. It’s a signal, a warning, and yes, a call to reclaim your energy and life.

💛 Your Next Step:If you’re ready to be in a community that gets you, where rage is normalized and your voice is heard, join the waitlist for The Dangerous Age → ashleystehlik.com.

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