I Got Comfortable Being Comfortable: The Truth About Losing (and Reclaiming) My Drive

There’s something I’ve been holding back from saying.

Not because I’m ashamed of it exactly, but because I wasn’t sure how to show up and say it out loud — especially when I’m supposed to be the “motivated,” “driven,” “always growing” life coach.

But here’s the honest truth: A few years ago, I lost my fire.

The motivation that used to come so naturally — to build, create, share, post, offer, speak — it slowly slipped away.

At first, I thought I was just taking a breather. Then the breather turned into a pause. The pause turned into hiding. And before I knew it, I’d settled into a space I never expected to find myself in:

Comfortable. But not fulfilled.

I Was Still Learning… But Not Showing Up

Now don’t get me wrong — I wasn’t sitting around doing nothing. I was soaking up knowledge like a sponge. Earning certifications. Studying trauma. Exploring somatics. Diving deep into the world of menopause, midlife transitions, and nervous system regulation.

I knew I was becoming more powerful, more equipped, and more aligned with the kind of coach and woman I was meant to be.

But I wasn’t sharing any of it.

Why?

Because I didn’t know how.

I didn’t know how to show up halfway cooked.

I didn’t know how to be in process publicly.

And I didn’t know if there was space in this noisy online world for someone like me — someone who doesn’t want to shout over the noise, but quietly whisper: “Come sit with me. I’ve got something to share.”

The Awakening (Again)

Somewhere along the way, something shifted.

Maybe it was turning another year older.

Maybe it was watching too many brilliant women stay small.

Maybe it was realizing that comfort is a beautiful place to visit, but it’s not where I want to live.

Because here’s the thing:

I am a dreamer. I am also a doer.

I’m someone who learns obsessively, cares deeply, and has a million tools I know could change someone’s life — if only I’d share them.

So here I am.

Showing up imperfectly.

Showing up vulnerably.

And showing up consistently — starting now.

What You Can Expect From Me (And Why It Matters)

For the next 3 years, I am committing to weekly blog posts.

Not because I’ve magically “figured it all out” — but because I’m tired of waiting for perfect conditions. I’ve got too much to say and too much to offer to keep quiet any longer.

These blogs will be about:

• Menopause and midlife magic

• Nervous system regulation

• Trauma-informed living and healing

• Self-trust, self-compassion, and self-returning

• The wild, beautiful ride of being a woman in transition

  
  

They’ll be honest.

They’ll be helpful.

And most of all, they’ll be real.

I’m Here for You

I’m not building this blog for the algorithm.

I’m building it for the women who land here at 3am googling “Why do I feel like I’m falling apart?”

For the ones who’ve tried all the things and still feel stuck.

For the ones who want to believe their best years aren’t behind them — they’re just beginning.

If that’s you, I see you. And I’d love to know what you need.

What do you want to learn about?

What questions are keeping you up at night?

What would feel like a breath of fresh air in this season of your life?

Leave a comment below. Or head to my contact page and tell me.

Let’s build this together — because you deserve a space that’s built for you, not just around you.

✨ Free Resources Just for You

If you’re new here (or just ready to reconnect), I’ve got a collection of free resources on my site designed to support you wherever you are right now:

👉 Midlife, Menopause & Magic 👉 MIdlife Reset Checklist

No fluff. Just beautiful, helpful, soul-supporting tools.

Thank you for being here.

For reading this.

For giving me space to show up honestly.

Here’s to building something sustainable, meaningful, and real — together.

With love, Ashley

Certified Menopause Coach + Trauma-Informed Guide